A different kind of Psychosexual and Relationship therapy

On the outside we may be functioning well but privately it can be another story. This practice works across the full range of Relational and Psychosexual difficulties to help you thrive.

Relationship work

Relational difficulties rarely exist in isolation, I work with romantic, sexual, family, professional and social relationships. This isn’t a practice exclusively for romantic relationships. Whatever the shape of what we’re carrying, I am here to understand your experience to help you move through it.

INTIMATE AND ROMANTIC

Desire, distance, conflict, trust, repair in relationships. I work with couples and different relationship configurations

FAMILY

Family complications and estrangement and the inheritances we carry can affect how we show up in our intimate relationships. For many of us, living and loving happens across more than one culture, and faith, whether our own, a partner’s or a family’s. I create space for the nuanced understanding this requires.

PROFESSIONAL AND SOCIAL

The rooms we work in and the communities we move through, the patterns can follow us there.

OURSELVES

The relationship we hold with ourselves, worked through individually, at depth. We don’t always need to bring a partner to do relationship work.

Psychosexual work

Psychosexual therapy is the clinical discipline that works with the sexual dimension of being human: desire, arousal, function, pain, identity, shame, the body’s story.

For those whose sexuality or desire doesn’t fit the norm, this work knows it from the inside, without ever assuming our experiences are the same.

There is an old assumption in therapy that still lingers, that if we sort the relationship out, the sex will follow. Research and my clinical experience tells a different story. Sexuality has its own history and its own needs. It deserves its own space. Rather than an afterthought or homework exercise handed over at the end of a session, it is respected and treated as a serious dimension of human life.

Most of the existing research measures therapeutic success in terms of satisfactory sex. In my experience many clients are not having any sex at all, or are having sex that feels disconnected, obligatory or simply not worth wanting. I work toward sex that helps us feel a sense aliveness, beyond satisfactory. If sex is something you want to reclaim, improve or understand more deeply, we can move well beyond that, toward something pleasurable, motivated and genuinely yours.

Why the two together

The World Health Organisation recognises sexual and relational wellbeing as a fundamental dimension of overall health. More than a luxury or a niche concern, it is central to how we function, connect and live.

Sexuality lives in relationship: with partners, with our histories and with ourselves. Relational life shapes our sexual life and our sexual life shapes how we relate. Contemporary research bears this out: sexual satisfaction has been shown to predict later gains in relationship satisfaction, not only the reverse. Working with one and not the other misses how each drives the other. That is why this practice holds both, as one discipline.

Park et al., 2023